When I was a child I used to hold my breath hoping my mommy would let me have my way.

Thankfully she was more mature than I was, and taught me that playing well with others goes a lot further in reaching the goals I was trying to achieve.

These childish protesters who are figuratively ‘holding their collective breath’ until Momma Obama gives them their way are no different than I was when I was three years old.

They also need to grow up and learn how to function as adults and learn how to work inside a system instead of like spoiled children who drag their feet until someone spanks them or lets them have their candy or toys.

Then again, I’m certain many who are participating have learned it’s easier to blend into a crowd of collective thought and protest a general idea that requires no individual effort on their part other than to simply “be” and object to “greed”.  Very spacey new-age philosophy but very short-sighted.  So maybe these folks have moved beyond infantile behaviour and are moving into junior-high concepts of communal living.  That’s progress then, I guess.

This was a response to a comment posted by a friend.  I slightly altered the post here as I had forgotten to include my experiences with unmarried women when responding to the original comment.  But this is the full text otherwise.  O and I added pictures because hey, i can, it’s my blog, haha

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Two things can happen if you finally figure someone out, 1. You see that their genuine and a great person and you begin to care about that person then that leads to lust or envy which is a sin or 2. You find out their fake and living a lie then you begin to feel sorry for them then hate comes in the picture because you see what a waste it is of a good life….

My response

Ah this is one I can speak on with authority – or well, experience at least 🙂

Fortunately there are more than the two options suggested, yay!

In my line of work as a software consultant, I often work away from home. This last stint in the UK started off as a year-long contract. Ended up being a three year tour when all was said and done. Family were there with me for about 8 months during that time.

The rest of the time was just me, stress, lots of work, a lot of free time, eating, drinking, and scores of young attractive co-workers hanging on my every word, just waiting for any opportunity for us to get to know each other better. Nudge nudge wink wink.  Or cruising for “friendship” from girls in the red light districts if I didn’t want an office scandal on my hands.

Ok, that was the imagined life. The reality was that there was indeed stress, lots of work and *some* free time when I wasn’t working 10 to 12-hour days and wasn’t trying to hail my family on different frequencies. The co-worker/working girl thing? Well thankfully I’d prayed some prayers years ago which God was all to willing to grant.

I didn’t ask God to keep me from temptation, nor to deliver me from evil. Those are part of life, so I knew I needed to know how to deal with both. Instead I prayed He would to turn the scent and thrill of unfaithful desire into a rancid taste. And prayed that I would see past a beautiful face and personality to see the wonderful home and family she was building with her husband.

And I prayed that as and when a counseling moment might arise where she’d ask for input, I’d respond in a way that would honor the precious life she and her spouse were crafting before their children’s eyes.

And if she wasn’t married, had no kids, or was in an unhappy marriage?  Fortunately God had given insight into how relationships are more than what is shared with the family members.

Actions we take that “would never be found out” still ripple down our family lifeline, shaking things up and tossing the ship asunder.  Or they can vibrate down the family lifeline, creating the music we’ve promised to create with our spouse, soothing and encouraging our children and parents.  Or a combination of both.

So no, thankfully any temptation to “go out for a coffee maybe”, “sneak off for a quick quiet nip at the pub”, or “say love, how’s about a little excitement tonight” was water off a duck’s back.

That’s probably been the best set of prayers I’ve ever prayed for my life guidance – in this way I protect many hearts from despair.

As for option #2? Heh Shakespeare said it best – we are indeed merely players on the vast stage. Fortunately we’ve an earthly and church family who can help us stay on queue, and realise we’re still beautiful – even after the greasepaint comes off and we think no one’s around to peek at us.

the moose on the loose had a juice for the goose

but the noise that they made was too loud, i must say

it shook all the doors and the floors in the stores

and when they were done we were all on the run

Verrrry interesting.  A plethora of web articles like this one claim explicitly that the “Spongebob Squarepants” show has been blamed for poor study and attention span in children. (See this news stream and pick any article at random)

Others claim – such as this one –  that watching shows like the “Spongebob Squarepants” show is cited in a report as being the cause of the deficient behaviour.

However I took time to actually READ the report instead of giving it a quick gloss-over scan… The original can be found here if one chooses to take time to read it.   I’ve copied it to this post here also: peds.2010-1919.full[1]

Nowhere does the report name any particular show (or shows) it used for testing, with the exception of gov’t-sponsored Sesame Street.

Meaning the Scary Headlines are, as usual, suspect and lack factual information.  I do have to admit using a well-known cartoon caught my eye, but then again so would a fish hook.  And I’m not a fan of either method of grabbing one’s attention.

If the writers really didn’t mean to mislead the reader, then it’s too bad they didn’t take time to actually read the publication before blasting out an article based on half-read details mixed in with personal interests and agendas.

Or were they too distracted by TV to pay attention?

was on my Sunday morning walk, flipping through the radio and came across a radio preacher who was in the midst of an impassioned sermon.  Caught my attention so I listened in.

He quoted some percentage of families who are currently on government assistance programs – which was the part that caught my ear, as I am a huge fan of families, and feel anything that harms a family must be acted upon.

I believe most hard-working, self-sufficient people who care about their families and self-worth don’t want to be on assistance. I know this because I myself was a recipient for a few months when a contract cancellation caught me unawares. After a few months of pocketburn I filled out the forms and received some aid that I’d been paying years’ worth of taxes to contribute to.

Even though I was fully entitled to the assistance and used it with the right spirit – as a temporary measure to feed my family until I was employed again – I still didn’t feel ‘whole’ again until I was able to get back on my feet. I thank my extended biological family and church family for this help, as the government assistance program was not equipped to help me find the type of work I contract for.

So I have empathy for those who are able to be gainfully employed but have a hard time finding work in an unexpected situation. I was not permanently disabled and had no mental or physical illness which prevented me from joining the ranks of taxpayers. At the time I just had a hard time finding a contract that would pay my bills on a long-tem basis. And I was sweating bullets the whole time, because I had already lost the house and was at risk of having no place to move to very very quickly. And although thankful for government aid, I was also frustrated with the meagre amount available which would certainly not sustain my family in the long run.

I also had a personal taste of how frightening and dis-empowering it is to be dependent upon “the state” for my family’s food. And my wife’s opinion of me shattered as well, casting doubt on her trust in me. It was not a good time for any of us.

So here I was, waiting to hear how this pastor would encourage his listeners and members in joining him to help pull folks off assistance.

Maybe a new church outreach program?

Teaming up with local stores and businesses to set up an internship and training for new skills?

Or, perhaps just setting aside a time of dedicated prayer to reach out to the hearts and minds of those who are under the crushing weight of government assistance’s thumb holding them back from reaching their dreams?

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o, sadly enough, the preacher railed about how inhumane ‘they’ were to be cutting government funding for federal assistance programs.

He never said who ‘they’ were but did spiral into a rant about how it’s the activists’ job to encourage ‘them’ to keep paying for family assistance in these hard times.

So sad that this pastor thinks it’s “someone else’s problem” (i.e. the activists) to make ‘them’ (I assume Congress?) come up with more fake money to pay for a program that is designed to keep people eating slop from the trough when the ranch hands find time to toss it in there.

I’d have hoped the pastor would have been more closely aligned with the word of God to take ownership of this issue and ask himself and his audience, “What can I personally do to help get these folks into a better place? Not starting with a different residence address for the people, but starting with a renewed state of mind and sense of purpose for them?”

The change of income and address will come with the change of heart and mind.

All the pastors I’ve known and loved have had a drive in their heart to find folks who are hurting and help them build the home and life their souls long for. Their churches grew naturally, not because they hungered for a mega-church but because they fostered a congregation that brought hurt and hungry in and helped them become people who themselves turned around to become helpers of men.

We can’t and shouldn’t depend upon any government agency to “give us” education, medicine, housing, or food for our households.  That’s simply asking too much for a system that we think should be “free” from tyranny.

By putting these items in any government agency’s coffer we remove our freedom from tyranny, for then what’s to say the leaders in the agency wouldn’t start holding back or applying funds for these things in ways we don’t deem fit? I think we’re already seeing the effects of that level of control even today.

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e’ll always have needy. That’s part of the human condition.

So the question is not, “How do we eliminate poverty?” – which is unrealistic and leads to ivory-tower thinking – but “Will you join me to help Joe and Jane and their kids get off the system?” – which is concrete and leads to immediate action.

And what am I doing to personally take ownership of “Joe and Jane and their kids”?

Well I have been active for a long time now, and you’re reading something here that continues along this path. I choose not to disclose my involvement with individual organisations or because I think this is something that is 1) between me and my maker and 2) an individual’s calling to follow, so my choices may not be your choices.

For instance, the three hours I’ve spent writing up this page may not be something you’d choose to do. But if even one person reading this is inspired to pick up an idea from here and move on with it, then my time is very well-spent. The best part of this is that I’ll never know who’s been lead by my words, and prefer to keep it that way 🙂

I don’t do this for recognition from my fellow man but as a thankfulness to my God who’s provided so much for my family. Other families would do well to turn their past need into a ministry for others, and this is my driving force here.

What can you do, if you’ve read this far and are interested in empowering people go from needing help to being able to help those in need?

If you are religiously-inclined…

Speak with your leader(s) to see if your organisation has ministry or programs to reach out to the needy. Join in helping whatever way your heart leads you.

Some faiths believe in “missionary outreach” to minister to the hearts and souls of those who are hurting. Reaching out to local city and neighbourhood families is probably one of the most important things a faith-based organisation can do. I feel if a religious community reaches out to provide aid to people across the globe but neglects the needs of those within a 30-mile radius of its physical location, then something’s wrong with the focus of the group.

If your organisation has no program, petition to see who might feel aligned with you to start a new one.

If you aren’t religiously-inclined…

See if there are charitable organisations that help people who are out of work, uneducated, or otherwise just need help finding a way to earn their own income on their own.

Some internet sites exist which allow folks to wish for, and grant wishes for others. This is an interesting – if possibly risky – way to assist directly if one doesn’t trust the leadership of charitable organisations.

Things can be done however where you can directly impact the lives of others and as a result directly teach them they can stand on their feet, on their own, without permanent assistance from any agency or group of people.

Regardless of our attitudes about faith, there is something we can all do.

This is to oppose any government activity that assumes the position of providing funds for, and selecting a family’s farmer, doctor, place to live, or teacher. These actions must be done by the heads of each individual family unit (i.e. whoever runs the show under the roof where the children live) and not by the collective.

It is up to you and me to keep this power out of the hands of oligarchy and into the hands of household leaders, where they can teach the growing men and women they also can have this power as well – but they must be willing to work to attain it and be ready to fight to keep it.