Each of us vibrate at a given frequency. Not so much a physical vibration but an emotional and spiritual vibration.

We seek others who vibrate at similar and harmonious frequencies.

Imagine a melody standing alone. It’s a wonderful thing and a beautiful sound on its own. Birds do it, and some of the best acapella arrangements specialize in this.

But imagine that melody with other sounds that harmonize with it. Like a rope made of separate strands, or cords, the result is stronger than each sound on its own.

Playing two keys on a piano that are right next to each other yields a terrible sound. Continuing up and down the keyboard doing this – even when one of the sounds is of a melody we’ve enjoyed before – makes that melody unlistenable.

So it is with our relationships.

Does this mean a disharmonious relationship is doomed?

Not necessarily.

Vocal coaches and outstanding producers teach and guide musicians to alter their skill set to become better at their craft. So do personal counselors when dealing with family matters.

The key to success though is the willingness of those being coached.

Some of us have played and practiced and coached ourselves and our partners to the point of near madness.

We have found the value of stillness and the sound of a lone instrument playing in the wind. It is quite peaceful.