Two of the most influential questions to ask littleuns as they start figuring out the basics of cause & effect:<\/p>\n
1. Who did this?<\/p>\n
2. How are you going to fix this?<\/p>\n
I’ve found this helps teach fundamental concepts that need to stick with them as they grow up – accountability and responsibility.<\/p>\n
As they answer the questions, they come to realise that they own the problem, and they have to figure out how to recover from their mistakes.<\/p>\n
If done gently they will learn that making mistakes isn’t the end of the world, and that will lead to more honesty as they trust your reactions.<\/p>\n
This comes not from doing it right as a parent, but from my mistakes I’ve made as a parent!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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